Noticing kindnesses is a great exercise.
When I consciously focus on kindnesses, I am retraining my brain to subconsciously focus on positive things. And the more my brain is absorbing these positive things, the less I notice the negative things… and the negative thoughts are starting to lessen too.
I was having a particularly rough time at work…(I am grateful I have a steady paycheck, at a place most people would find amazing and parts of it are absolutely wonderful for me, though I have become more aware of how unfulfilling it is and I know I deserve and can do more). SO, when I started focusing on kindnesses (performing them myself and noticing them in others), things started to shift.
Driving to work, I often listened to positive books or uplifting music while stating my intentions out loud enthusiastically. And now I was also noticing that while I might have normally sped up in traffic to not let a car cut in front of me, I was waving them in with a smile. Getting a cup of water or tea in the kitchen at work, I’d get one for a co-worker as well. AND even more fun, I’d see others doing similar things and it felt just as good.
More recently, I was noticing that I wasn’t feeling so much anger or resentment anymore going into the office, though it was more a feeling of indifference (which is higher up the vibration scale than anger or resentment, so this was good). AND I was now bored (which is still better than anger/ resentment).
SO, I started bringing love into the equation (love is the highest vibration there is).
When making a phone call, each syllable was filled with love. Walking into meetings, each step pressed love into the carpet and butterflies flew out all over the room. Even sitting quietly eating my lunch, I chose to feel love in my heart and all around me, being grateful for the nourishment the food provided, for the strong healthy teeth in my mouth that could chew each bite fully, releasing enzymes to break down my food, enabling my body to absorb all the nutrients it needed. Love for the earth for providing the food that fueled me. And with each bite, a small smile on my face sometimes made others smile with me. And lunch wasn’t just a 30 minute escape from the office, but an adventure into feeling good and passing it on to others.
Noticing kindnesses puts us in a love consciousness. And this is the only way to move forward…from a place of love.